男性的社交軟肋

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男性的社交軟肋

　　Today, I’m going to be talking about the concept of VALUE. The fact is we ALL want to add value to our lives. Working hard for extra money; going to a sports game with friends; saving up to go on a holiday... Everything we do can bebroken down to a point where we are striving to add value to our lives.Keeping that in mind, let’s move to the topic of meeting & dating women.

男性的社交軟肋

　　今天，我要談?wù)剝r(jià)值的概念。事實(shí)是，我們誰都想給自己的生活增值。努力工作多掙錢，約上朋友做運(yùn)動(dòng)，攢錢出游……我們做的任何事都可以歸結(jié)為努力為自己的生活增值。記著這一點(diǎn)，我們?cè)賮碚劷Y(jié)識(shí)女人及和女人約會(huì)的話題……

　　When the interaction with women begins, the expression of our true personality suddenly becomes restrained as we try to avoid offending her. We no longer behave like the person we truly are at our deepest core. We become passive and much of our natural masculinity goes out the window。

　　剛開始和女人交流時(shí)，我們真實(shí)個(gè)性的表達(dá)突然間被束縛住了，因?yàn)槲覀兿氡苊饷胺傅綄?duì)方。我們表現(xiàn)得不再是那個(gè)最本色的自我，我們變得很被動(dòng)，我們骨子里的男子氣概大部分都已消失殆盡。

　　Stop for a moment... Imagine yourself being nervous during a JOB interview. You’re frightened of what to say and how to say it, so you pretty much agree or go along with everything that is being discussed in order to avoid ANY sort of controversy. The interviewer can FEEL your anxiety and can sense that you’re putting on an ‘a(chǎn)greeable persona.’

　　先緩一緩。想象一下，假設(shè)你在一場(chǎng)求職面試中很緊張。你很害怕，不知道該說什么以及該怎么說，所以，為了避免引起任何爭(zhēng)議，你很可能隨聲附和或者贊同任何正在談?wù)摰膬?nèi)容。面試官確實(shí)能感知到你的焦慮情緒，能意識(shí)到你戴上了“隨和”的面具。

　　Now, while you still may be able to land some jobs being nervous and using a false persona, it is the WRONG approach to take with women. Especially beautiful women. By suppressing our real personality in an attempt to avoid ‘offending’ women, we fail to offer them any VALUE。

　　回過頭來看，盡管你很緊張，而且做了偽裝，你仍可能得到某些工作，但是，這種方式在女人身上是行不通的，尤其是美女。我們?yōu)榱瞬弧懊胺浮倍鴫阂肿约旱恼鎸?shí)個(gè)性，這樣在女人面前是展現(xiàn)不出自身價(jià)值的。

　　Let’s look at this in another way. Imagine that you’re an attractive woman and have guy’s queuing up to be with you. Now picture yourself in a social environment; a guy walks up to you and shyly begins a guarded conversation:

　　讓我們換個(gè)思路看待這個(gè)問題。把自己想象成一位迷人的女士，想要追求你的人都排成長(zhǎng)隊(duì)了。現(xiàn)在，設(shè)想自己身處一個(gè)社交場(chǎng)合，一名男子走上前來，羞答答地開始了下面一段謹(jǐn)慎的對(duì)話：

　　Guy: Hi.having a good night?

　　男：你好，今晚玩得愉快嗎?

　　Woman: Yes, thanks.

　　女：嗯，多謝……

　　Guy: Cool.so what are you drinking?

　　男：不錯(cuò)……呃，你在喝什么?

　　Woman: Vodka。

　　女：伏特加。

　　Guy: With what?

　　男：添了什么?

　　Woman: Raspberry。