Taking the First Step(邁出第一步)

     Taking the First Step

      For some people forgiveness feels impossible because they have no idea how to go about it. The first and most important thing you need to accept is that the act of forgiveness is not going to be

easy. In fact, it will probably be the hardest thing most of us ever have to do.

     It seems totally unfair that we should have to forgive when we're the ones who have been hurt. And that's the crux of forgiveness. It seems unfair because it is unfair. Otherwise what would there be to forgive? Forgiveness is about pardoning things that are essentially inexcusable. After all, if something can be excused, it doesn't need forgiving, does it?

     The saying "Forgive and forget" may roll off the tongue,but it's as shallow as it is short. For one thing, it's downright impossible. For another, it misses the whole point of forgiveness. The things we most need to forgive in life are the things we can't forget. Rather than sweeping them under the carpet,we need to draw a line under them, deliberately choosing not to count them against the person who did them, and moving on.

     That's why, sometimes, the initial act of forgive-ness may seem relatively easy, but dealing with the emotions that follow every time you see that person, or speak to them or just think about them, can be harder to deal with. True forgiveness is not an act, it's a constant emotional confrontation.

     And the longer you wait to forgive someone, the harder it becomes. Time really doesn't heal, it just gives the bitterness and resentment longer to eat away at you from inside. If you wait for the "right time" you may never do it.

邁出第一步

    對某些人來說，寬恕他人是不可能的，因為他們不懂得如何寬恕。你必須接受的第一件也是最重要的一件事情便是：寬恕他人不是一件容易的事。事實上，寬恕他人也許是我們所做過的所有事情中最難的一件。

    受傷害的是我們，但我們卻必須寬恕傷害我們的人，這聽起來完全不公平。這正是寬恕他人的關鍵。這聽起來不公平，